I gotcha now. I understand what you mean and I do agree, If I was pulling heavy dump trailers, flatbeds, heavy enclosed or campers/travel trailers absolutely. Given my low weight requirements I still have a safety margin.
Was leaning towards the diesel for improved mileage as well as a heavier front end. I dont tow heavy, but probably do about 3000-4000km each winter for snowmobiling, about 10k throughout the summer between ATV'ing and motocross. So having a truck without such a large mpg penalty would be welcomed over what I have now.
I opted for the gas for the simplicity, lack of emissions complexity and lower cost of gas over diesel. However, I have given up less weight in the front that in my experience feels to better balance the ride when towing. I can compare with my dads '20 6.7 350 lariat.
As for my experience with the Ford. As mentioned above, I get that every manufacture and model has its issues. It is bound to occur based on the quantity of vehicles being produced. But when you start running into issue after issue, especially when a lot of them are lack workmanship quality or just cheap materials and engineering. It leaves a bad taste in your mouth. I will admit as well, I should have never purchased the Tremor. The 4.30's although decent for making up that lack of diesel torque do not lend well to overall MPG.s And for me, this truck is a daily driver.