Thanks to those who responded and I will offer some responses.
As a note/clarification... while appreciate the recommendations, I am not at all interested in a Lift or a Level so most of these 'kits/packages/tuned shocks' recommended seem to be of zero use as they are all for lifted/leveled trucks.
To quickly touch on shocks... I'm seeing a preference for Fox (I'd say King as well, but they seem to fall far outside the scope of my application)
Any thoughts on Bilstein 4600 or the Rancho RS9000XL as those show up as alternatives.
On to replies....
Kings suspension , and airbags. Look at the Carli kits, to keep stock
I looked at King/Carli and I see nothing for stock trucks (unless I missed something)... everything revolves around a lift or a level, neither of which I want.
I like the idea of airbags and it was something I was considering.
For 35's and towing like that I'd be keeping the suspension stock other than some good bags in the back to help keep things stable and level.
Not a fan of the stock suspension (and neither is the wife)... I agree with air bags.
To do that you need tuned suspension, like Fox Tuned by Carli and or Kings. these will dramatically change the ride of your truck. Also get rid of the 20's if you have them, go 18's. Tire Pressure as well will be a big factor. With the airbags you will get better towing stability for the weight, but not improving the daily drive.
Unless I've read incorrectly, those are all for lifted/leveled trucks... neither of which I am interested in doing. And yeah, air bags...
I guess its a matter of perspective to me a set of Bilstiens and removal of the front sway bar makes a big difference but i also use my truck far past what most people do so i will not run any of the aftermarket suspension that limits the weight capacity i do have a set of bags but only for stability as the springs are far to inboard for my liking.
I'm certainly not interested in reducing/limiting my weight capacity... is that more of an issue on lifted/leveled trucks?
OP considering it sounds like you dont plan on towing more than 10k I think smaller wheels, bigger tires, sway bar, and a level + new shocks on all 4 corners should get you the increased ride quality you are looking for while maintaining towing capacity you are looking for. You could always add in bags w/ day stars as others have suggested for stability and to reduce sag.
Something like a carli or thuren level I think would get a decent compormise for you. Just my $.02 as everyone will have a different opinion here.
No level or lift... I have zero interest in them and do not like them.
I've looked at your suggestion for smaller wheels/bigger tires but the ratio difference is only a smidge over 10% between an 295/65R20 and 35x12.5R18, not sure that would be a significant difference?
OP I bought my truck exclusively for towing, no other reason otherwise I would have kept my 1500. That said when I got the truck the ride was harsh to me, I was used to my 1500 with four corner air suspension. Yeah I knew it would be rougher but I also knew I could make it better. After two weeks I installed Thuren 1" lift coils, Thuren sway bar and Fox shocks all around, I left the rear coils alone as I tow. The Limited has the 20" tires on it, while not a fan I kept them and went up in size to a 285/65R20 which has a bigger sidewall and are just under 35" at 34.8". When not towing I run 62F/50R air pressures, towing is 65/65. The truck rides almost as good as my 1500 did. Towing it's a pleasure as it's smooth as silk. I use an Equalizer e4 WD hitch, no airbags and it keeps it level and controlled. The only thing I get is occasional light porpoising over freeway joints or such. I could add air bags and cradles but don't see a need so far, but with a 10K trailer i would probably add them. Pic for reference showing level flat tow with around 400lbs in bed. One of the arrays from the VLA in New Mexico.
So aside from the level, you seem to be closest to doing what I plant to do with truck (aside from the level).... thanks for the input.
Save your money, leave it stock
That's a hard 'no', but thanks for your input.