So let me know if I am understanding this all correctly. This is what I gather from reading all of these 3.73 vs. 4.10 posts:
The main thing I get is that there is really not much of a difference to start with. If your truck is a daily driver and you are not towing, a 3.73 makes sense because there really is no advantage to the 4.10 and you might save 1 mpg or so. If you are using the truck primarily for towing, mountain driving, etc., then definitely go with the 4.10. I would imagine most people fall somewhere between those two extremes and that is where it is starting to sound like it doesn't really matter either way you go. Many people say if you find one on the lot you like, don't worry about the gear ratio but if ordering, go with the 4.10. The more I read this, the more I feel like it is not that big of a deal, unless you plan on towing toward the truck's limits then you would need the 4.10. It also sounds like this is not an issue at all with a diesel since it already has more torque but it will help out with the Hemi. Again, I have no experience with either of these but am just trying to summarize how I understand it.
As for me, the truck will not be a daily driver and I plan to get a 30' trailer eventually. While it won't be a huge 5th wheel, they weigh in the 7,000-8,000 pound range. I am sure a 3.73 will be just fine but after reading all of these threads, I don't really see a disadvantage to a 4.10 so I think it is worth the extra $150 or whatever it is when I order. This will primarily be a recreational vehicle for me and I go up in the mountains a lot too. I have also read posts where the city mileage is the same or better and if I am not taking this on a trip up to the mountains or pulling a trailer, it may be an occasional trip around town if the other car is not available. And finally, I see a lot of people mention driving 80-85 mph. I rarely go over 70 so that might even have less of a negative effect going with 4.10's for me. Speaking of that, I would be curious to hear about RPMs or MPGs from people who drive closer to 70 MPH as opposed to over 80. Anyways, as someone said earlier, this is a truck, don't worry about 1mpg!